The purpose of dating a girl is definitely to enhance the relationship, but in many cases if you don’t pay attention to the details, the date may have the opposite effect. So how to date a girl to enhance the relationship?
You need to do two things: 1. Create a sense of comfort 2. Avoid embarrassment.
What is the sense of comfort in dating?
Make girls feel comfortable dating you and being with you, and what they get used to is comfort.
Once you have established a sense of comfort, your relationship will be much closer, and a good date will also bring you many benefits:
(1) How often girls take the initiative to chat with you Increase, care about you. Because the sense of comfort is well established, a girl's experience with you will be very pleasant. In order to gain more pleasure, she will take the initiative to chat with you.
(2) The success rate of the next invitation will increase. This is because the dating experience with you is better and I am happier with you, so it will be less difficult to date in the future.
(3) A girl’s favorable impression of you will rise sharply, and the relationship will be easy to advance.
On the contrary, if the comfort is not well established during the date and the atmosphere is awkward and cold, then the next step will be The chance of asking a girl out the next time will be much smaller, and you may even not be able to ask a girl out again. Chatting will also become more and more perfunctory and cold, because the girl will feel that you are not interested in being with you, and then the girl's interest will be reduced. Moved somewhere else.
So how can we make dating more comfortable?
First of all, before dating, you should first Call or chat beforehand.
This is to understand the other person’s personality and is also the first step in dating. If you want to quickly get closer to the other person, you must start by knowing the other person’s preferences. Before a date, a man should call and ask the woman about her tastes or habits. This will not only leave a good impression but also pave the way for the next date.
Second, learn to touch politely during dates.
Psychologists believe that appropriate physical contact will bring people closer, but if a boy touches a girl on the first date, it may give people a very impolite feeling. The reason is: In "impolite".
Shaking hands when meeting or holding women to the inside of the road when walking is the correct way to make "polite" physical contact and leave a good impression on girls.
Third, you can choose a more relaxed environment for the date place
For example, a coffee shop. Such a place is easy for people to relax, which can also better develop the topic. If you choose a relatively high-end hotel or a formal occasion for the first time, it will make women feel depressed and restrained, which is not conducive to the progress of the date. Of course, I don’t mean high-endYou can't go to places, it's better to depend on the situation.
Fourth, grasp the process of the date
Why should we pay attention to the process of the date? Because it is particularly important to pay attention to the emotional changes of girls and the changes in the dating atmosphere. Don’t just care about yourself. When talking freely, you should also pay attention to what topics the other person likes to talk about. When the atmosphere between the two of you is relatively good, don't stay in the same place forever. As time goes by, the atmosphere between you will soon cool down.
Therefore, when the atmosphere is good, or when the atmosphere is not so good, we should propose to continue the date at the next location. At this time, if the woman is happy to go, it means that she has a good impression of you. The date can continue. If the girl refuses, then the date can almost be ended, because procrastination is a taboo in dating.
Finally, we boys should play the leading role in leading the date
For example, when ordering food for dinner , because you will be too concerned about whether a girl eats a dish, so you keep asking, making girls feel that you are too mother-in-law and a man with no independent opinions.
Or let the girl order all the dishes by herself, and if the girl asks her what she likes to eat, she can eat whatever she wants. This will give the girl the feeling that you are too flattering, too deliberate, and uncomfortable on a date. Including letting girls decide on many things in the future, such as where to go, what movies to watch, and what drinks to drink. Let girls choose these, which will deepen the bad impression.
Of course, this does not mean that you should be indifferent. You can greet the girls politely and show enough respect to the girls, but you should also order what you like to eat and drink and cook it yourself. Only by taking the leading role can one reflect one's own opinions and personality. Girls tend to like the feeling of being an alpha male.
How to avoid embarrassment when dating a girl you like?
Tip 1: Talk to the girl before dating, listen to each other’s voices, and break the feeling of strangeness
If you haven’t talked on the phone or spoken to each other before dating, then you are likely to have a strange sense of distance when you first meet, which will deepen the awkward atmosphere of the date. So you have to use your voice to let the other person know you better and exchange each other's favor.
After communicating through voice, you will definitely feel that the distance between the two people is not so far away. In this way, we will be familiar with each other's voices, and it will not cause embarrassment when we go out, because both parties will think that this person is the person I have talked to before.
Also, you can make her feel that you are a person with excellent quality and education through your words. If her words make you very uncomfortable, then there is no need for you to see her again. , which is also a layer of screening.
Tip 2: Avoid spending too much time sitting face to face when meeting.
Dating scenes where you sit face to face will be more awkward.
For your first date, give priority to places where you can sit side by side, such as park benches, bars, movie theaters, unique cafes, etc. You can sit side by side and your bodies will be closer. There won't be a strong sense of distance.
Of course, it’s not a big problem to sit facing each other when eating, because you definitely don’t want your ugly eating appearance to be seen by girls at a glance.
Generally speaking, when dating girls, we should still give them enough comfort.
Here I will give you a good suggestion. This suggestion is four words: Enough is Enough
Enough is enough. The date does not need to be too long. The longer the date, if you are not good at getting along with girls, the higher the chance of making mistakes and the worse your performance.
Enough is enough. No matter how the other person feels about you, please be calm. For example, if the date is awkward or the girl keeps playing with her phone with her head down, which makes you a little unhappy, don’t write your emotions on your face.
Enough is enough. After you have given the other party enough comfort, don’t be too anxious and want to have sex right away. Being anxious for a moment may waste all your efforts, unless the girl’s interest is really great.
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