I have known a girl for a while, and I think we can chat pretty well, but every time I want to ask her out to meet, I get rejected ruthlessly. What should I do in this situation?
Girls If I keep chatting with you but can’t get a date, it’s usually due to the following reasons:
1. Ignore the girl’s feelings when chatting
A girl keeps chatting with you without being aloof. Performance, that's a good thing, if you just try harder and deepen your attraction, you can definitely ask a girl out.
But if you are too anxious, ignore the girl's feelings, and leave the other party with the feeling that you are chatting with her just to date her, you are likely to be ruthlessly rejected by the other party.
2. Wrong identification of girls’ attitudes
Some boys do not have high emotional intelligence and cannot tell the difference. The girl's attitude was that she was clearly having an awkward conversation with the girl, but she felt good about herself. She took some normal conversations as a sign of goodwill, and wrongly estimated the degree of her relationship with the girl. In this case, she also extended an invitation. How could the girl Accept it?
3. Missed the opportunity to invite a girl out
If you want to ask a girl out, in addition to chatting, the timing of the invitation is also critical. Before asking a girl out, make sure you know her current situation. The situation requires some understanding. If you don’t even know when the other person is free, a hasty invitation will naturally not be successful.
So, if you want to ask a girl out, you need to do the following:
1. Correct identification A window for girls
In the initial WeChat chat interaction, we must establish enough attraction, comfort and security. Only in this way can the other party take off their guard and accept you. invitation.
Before inviting a girl, we must be aware of the girl’s needs or benign windows in advance. These can be learned through the girl’s circle of friends or the chat content between you, for example:
1) The girl sent a delicious photo, so the girl is interested in eating, so she can invite the girl out to eat.
2) Girls post selfies, so girls pay great attention to their appearance. You can invite girls to go out and take pictures of her.
3) If a girl complains or talks about love, then the girl needs company at this time and can invite the girl to go shopping.
2. Grasp the girl’s sense of expectation
After chatting with the girl, the girl’s mood at the time must be positive When you are in a relatively high state, if you take the initiative to end the topic at this time, the girl will definitely be reluctant to leave. Then at the end of the chat, you can invite the girl. For example, say to the girl: Don't miss me secretly when I am not chatting with you.Oh
If the girl doesn't reject your ambiguity, you can use this to ask her out. If the girl refuses, just laugh it off and don't explain anything.
3. Grasp the negative emotions in girls’ mouths
If a girl’s emotions are always in a negative state, it will be bad for you. Saying things like "so tired, so hungry, so bored" means that she has needs and windows at this time. In fact, she is waiting for you to ask her out. For example:
Girl: She is really hungry.
Male: I haven’t eaten either. What are you going to eat?
Woman: Maybe just order takeout.
Male: My former classmate gave me two Haidilao coupons. If I don’t go, it will be wasted. Otherwise, I will go and eat some.
In the above conversation, the girl said that the window is the window when she is hungry. When the boy asked the girl what to eat, the girl said some takeout. If you think about ordering takeout for a girl, then you may become her licker. Dog, it will be difficult to ask her out again. Therefore, you can use coupons as an excuse to invite girls to dinner and give you the steps to invite them.
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