The first date with a girl determines your first impression in her mind. If this impression is bad, you may not have any follow-up possibilities. So what details should you pay attention to when dating a girl for the first time?
1. Nervousness
The reason why you feel nervous during a date is that the number of dates is too few. You have too little contact with girls, so you feel nervous and at a loss.
Improvement: You need to have multiple dating experiences and multiple interviews with girls. Only when you are familiar with it will you no longer feel nervous.
2. Not clean
When a girl goes on a date with a boy, the first thing she sees is the boy’s appearance. If she doesn’t keep it clean, she will feel that you don’t respect her and go out. Not even dressed up.
Improvement: Before going out, take some time to dress yourself up, take care of your hair/eyes/nose hair/teeth/ear corners/eyebrows, and wipe any dirty areas of your shoes. .
3. Unnatural
During a date, when you talk, your eyes wander, your head shakes, your hands and feet move wildly, these body movements can easily make girls feel that their level is not high, and they will not continue. touch.
Improvement: Sit in front of the mirror for 10 minutes every day. Don't move above the neck. Don't cross your legs when sitting, don't shake your hands and feet, look at the other person when talking, don't drift around.
4. No connotation
During the date, the words spoken are completely meaningless, and when talking to girls, they always You are saying something very superficial, making her feel that you are a low-level and meaningless person.
Improvement: Read more books, walk more roads, communicate more with people at different levels, learn more about other people’s opinions and practices, and occasionally spend some time to learn more about things that you usually don’t pay attention to. Popular.
5. No clothes
When a girl first sees a boy, the first thing she sees is your clothes. If the clothes are not good, it will make her feel You have no taste.
Improvement: Go to TB to buy more returnable clothes, try them on if you buy them, and find out if they are inappropriate/unsightly
Return them all and try matching them with different styles of clothes to see what style suits you. (Note: It is best to have one or two sets of each type of matching.)
6. Can’t read the subtext
When a girl is dating, she often releases her body language, including her eyes, Facial expressions, body "unintentional" reactions and tone of voice, if boys often can't read it, girls will think "it's so immature, you can't even see it."
Improvement: Pay more attention to the changes in the girl's eyes, pay more attention to her body contact, pay more attention to the changes in her tone of voice, don'tListen to what she says, but pay more attention to what she does.
7. Upgrading too quickly
Most girls are willing to date you because they want to be with you Try to find out if you can have a long-term relationship. If a boy gets involved on the first date, it will only make the girl think that you are just a date.
Improvement: Don’t hold each other’s hand, put your arms around each other, or want to kiss each other in places where physical contact is not allowed (such as shopping/walking on the street/watching movies). If you want to find a girlfriend that will last you a lifetime, it is recommended that you start having physical contact after the second or third date.
8. Urgency
In the eyes of girls, their willingness to contact a boy means that they want to know more about the other person. Even if they feel good about each other, they hope to have a romantic process instead of that. The kind of person you just want to take home.
Improvement: Life requires a sense of ritual, and so does communication. More process and more foreplay will make you feel good.
9. Not straightforward
Some types of girls are very experienced, even more than boys. They know what boys want to do with them. At this time, you are still very tactful. Using various excuses, if she has a good impression of you, she will cooperate with your performance. If she does not have a good impression of you and you are still so hypocritical, she may not even have the desire to meet you.
Improvement: When a girl clearly asks the key point, don’t say it too tactfully, be more direct and tell her what you want to do. (Of course, if the other party doesn’t ask, don’t say anything. Anyone who asks you will understand what you want to do. At this time, your answer is more hypocritical than saying it clearly.)
10. No attitude
If you always agree to the girl’s request during the date, without any attitude or resistance, or any behavior that insists on putting yourself first, the girl will feel that, This boy is quite single (bullying) and pure (negative).
Improvement: Any behavior that harms your own position, makes you feel uncomfortable, or makes you feel uncomfortable should be stopped at the very beginning and brought up in person. Even if the date ends because of this, never do it. Accommodate yourself.