If the girl you are chatting with online can successfully ask her out, then it will be very easy to confirm the relationship. However, many boys do not have the correct method of asking out, so the invitation is frequently rejected. So how do you get a date with a girl you chat with online?
1. Prerequisites for a successful invitation
There is a prerequisite for asking a girl out without being rejected. The condition is to make girls feel safe enough.
If you have just met a girl and you don’t have enough familiarity and security yet, and you send out an invitation right away, she will definitely not agree.
Even if a girl initially thinks, “This boy is quite interesting,” she will also think, “We don’t know each other yet.” “He asked me out so quickly, does he do the same to other girls?” Is he too carefree? Is he in danger?" Then he refused our invitation.
2. How to judge whether a girl can successfully make an appointment
To judge whether a girl can successfully make an appointment, that is Determine whether she feels safe enough.
For example: We are sharing the delicious food we made, taking photos and sending them to girls, and the girls will also take photos to us and share them with each other. This means that we have enough security because we are willing to The people we share our lives with are usually people we trust. Even sharing what she likes to eat, what she doesn’t like to eat, some living habits, and some things about her best friends, friends, and family members are all signs that she feels safe enough with us.
Therefore, girls’ willingness to share, or even take the initiative to share, is one of the judgment points. Taking the initiative to share something is also a sign of great interest, because she also wants you to get to know her. To put it another way, in fact, when we have known girls for a short time, in addition to attracting girls and showing ourselves off, a very important point is to learn to give girls a sense of security and familiarity.
3. Timing of invitation
Many brothers, after establishing sufficient familiarity and security, If the invitation is still rejected, it means that you chose the wrong time to invite.
For example, if a girl works as a promoter, let’s make an appointment on the weekend, and the weekend may be the time when she is busiest and has the most things to do, so she has no choice but to refuse your invitation. Therefore, it is important to control the time of invitation.
Regarding this point, when we and the girl were getting to know each other in the early stages, we could learn about her "working hours" through the topic; although we did not need to show that we were going to date her at the time, we knew this information in advance. Then when it comes time to invite, there will be no mistake in the invitation time.
AnotherIn addition, the invitation must be made in advance, but don’t make it too early. If we make a last-minute appointment, girls will be reluctant. After all, girls need time to prepare before going out (putting on makeup, changing clothes, etc...); if we make an appointment 3 days in advance , 4-day appointment, there are great variables in this. She may refuse because she suddenly has work arrangements, or she may regret it later and give up due to other reasons. Usually one day in advance is more appropriate.
4. The correct way to invite a girl
When many brothers invite girls, they just say "tomorrow" I’ll take you to eat delicious food.” In fact, for such an invitation, it is very likely that the girl will not come out in the end. Even if the attraction, familiarity, security, etc. are all met, the invitation will ultimately fail.
Why is this?
Reason 1: The probability of a girl agreeing to this topic is only 50%
Reason 2: Sometimes it is possible to invite a girl to this topic Just ignore it, or accidentally jump to other topics
Therefore, the correct way to invite a girl is to do an invitation test before the invitation, to determine whether the girl has an invitation window, and to determine whether she has the time and mood.
For example, if a girl talks about when she will have a break, when will she be free recently, what are her plans, etc., you can be willing to say: Do you plan to date your little brother during the break? By asking like this, you can find out whether the girl has any plans for her day off, and then confirm whether there is an opportunity for an invitation; and mentioning the younger brother is to advance the purpose of the invitation, and then confirm whether the girl has an emotional window.
Moreover, this is also a reverse pursuit technique, because if many girls are interested in you, they will reply "Who will I date? I date you?" If the attraction was enough before, you can continue the conversation at this time and reply to the girl "Yes, balabala", and then you can confirm the invitation.
If a girl is generally interested in you, she will reply: "I don't know, let's see when the time comes." At this time, you have to know that the attraction is not enough, you need to increase the attraction, and make an appointment next time .
In addition to this, there is another technique that is vague invitation. Many brothers should be familiar with vague invitation, so I won’t introduce it here.
Give a direct example, such as saying to a girl: "We recently opened a Japanese restaurant here that tastes pretty good. Let's try it together when you have time." Among them, "when you have time" is a vague concept. Generally speaking, girls are more accepting of it. However, vague invitations generally do not have a specific time and are not considered formal invitations.
Therefore, a vague invitation can also be regarded as a kind of invitation test. Assuming that the girl agrees and says yes, then we can say "I happen to be free on Thursday, how about the day after tomorrow?"
We show our time, but let the girls make the choice. If the girls say yes, then we will make specific decisions.Just confirm the time and location the day after tomorrow and further confirm the appointment.
By the way, don’t make an appointment tomorrow. Why, because it seems that you have no girls to choose from, so you will ask her out. Secondly, it will appear that you have a strong sense of need and are anxious to see her. Do you understand? , sometimes you have to think about things from a girl’s perspective! At this step, many boys may ask girls, "When will you be free?" In fact, there is no need to ask like this. Although you are a gentleman, you are not boyfriend and girlfriend yet, so there is really no need to be such a gentleman. Moreover, asking this will make it appear that "I need to take time out to accompany her" and that you are in a passive and frameless state. Girls will subconsciously think I think you are obeying her. Although it cannot be said to have a bad influence on us, I am sure that the former means that the sense of attraction and framework is stronger.