Psychologist Albert Merabian once pointed out that there must be three elements to constitute a face-to-face communication: language, tone, and non-verbal behavior.
The most subtle and difficult to master is non-verbal behavior, which is what we often call body language.
You must know that people have psychological warning distance, but if we can use physical touch to improve the relationship between two people, the upgrade of the relationship will be just around the corner.
However, male compatriots must also understand that physical contact depends on timing. A good timing is best after establishing an initial sense of comfort with each other.
In other words, when a woman gradually lowers her guard against you, your physical touch will be relatively safe for her and more likely to be accepted by women.
It should be noted that physical contact is a step-by-step process, from low to high, without jumping. Once the other party feels uncomfortable midway, stop immediately.
Remember that a woman’s escalation of intimacy and rejection of you are not permanent.
You can translate her "no" at that time into "not yet", so as to give her room to adapt and not cause resentment to the other party.
One and three-second rule
The three-second rule is often used to strike up a conversation, which means seeing the heartbeat. When you are a person, the first three seconds are your bravest and least burdensome moments, but after three seconds, you will become anxious. The longer the time, the easier it is to fail.
When used in physical contact, it can be understood that the speed of contact should be fast, the process should not be hesitant, and the other party should not be given any reason to refuse.
For example, when you are on a date with a girl, you tell her a joke, making her laugh out loud, and then, before she can stop laughing, you make her laugh with lightning speed. , tapped her face with his hand, and said to her: "You have a little dimple on your face, it looks so cute."
The girl replied: "This is not a dimple, this is my dimple." , when you get the answer, you should quickly retreat to relieve the tense atmosphere at the moment.
Although there is no substantial physical contact such as holding hands or hugging, it has achieved the purpose of creating an ambiguous atmosphere and planting the expected purpose in her heart. As long as the follow-up is in place and the intimate contact is successful, it is also It's a matter of course.
What should be noted when using this technique is that when you want to have physical contact with a girl, do not hesitate, otherwise when the girl reacts, your behavior will appear very deliberate.
And when physically touching, don’t get too close to the other person, and know how to step back in time.
After all, the physical contact at this time is just to bring the relationship closer, and it does not mean that the relationship between you and the girl has developed to the point where you can have intimate contact without reservation.
Try againFor example, a girl sprayed a nice-smelling perfume today. You suddenly came close to her ear, smelled it and said to her: "What brand of perfume are you using? It smells very comfortable and it really suits you." ”
Then withdraw quickly and give her some buffering time. When she reacts, the atmosphere between you will be successfully ignited, and then you only need to gradually advance the relationship.
In short, this technique is to learn to use the girl's own characteristics to create opportunities for contact. It can be the fragrance on her body, or her bracelets, earrings, etc. These are opportunities for you to get closer to her without appearing too obtrusive.
2. Step-by-step method
The key to this technique is to start with unintentional contact and then move on to intentional contact. Contact, this will easily make the other person drop their psychological defenses and accept your physical touch.
First of all, we need to pay attention to that when dating a woman and looking at each other, we should not lower our heads or look away immediately. We should look at the other person confidently and relaxedly, so that the other person feels that you are a very confident man. .
In the eyes of a woman, lowering your head or looking away is a very unattractive sign, and her impression of you will be greatly reduced.
Next, we can use a simple handshake or a tap on social parts such as shoulders and arms to establish initial comfort.
Of course, whether it is a handshake or a tap on the shoulder, it must be shown that it is a natural behavior and not a deliberate contact for the purpose of physical contact.
If the girl doesn’t resent your behavior, you have to continue to the next step and touch the girl’s hand. For example, when you are talking to her, gently touch her hand with your hand, as if to give her a feeling of drawing closer to you.
If she does not show any discomfort at this moment, you can try to hold her hand directly. However, when you try to hold her hand and she evades or breaks away, you should also stop the behavior completely. Keep a certain distance from her.
If everything goes well, you can go to the last step and touch the woman’s hair, face, or neck, which are more sensitive places, such as accidentally wiping off things on her face or corners of her mouth, and touching her hair.
If the girl does not refuse, we can try to touch her face tenderly and romantically to create an ambiguous atmosphere and lay the foundation for a successful kiss.
Remember, you can’t eat hot tofu in a hurry. We can only improve our relationship through physical contact step by step.
If any part of the process makes the girl feel uncomfortable, we must stop it in time and let the girl adapt to your behavior so that the relationship can be further promoted.
3. Frame reversal skills
In the process of getting along between the sexes, if you take the initiativeWhen you touch a woman, it is easy for her to become defensive and resistant because you don't control the scale well.
Therefore, Li Zi will introduce a technique to male compatriots: the inversion frame technique, which refers to hinting to a woman that she wants to take the initiative to contact you, making her feel that she is in charge of the rhythm and that she can do it at any time. Touch you in any way.
In this case, you don’t have to worry about not controlling the scale well and making girls resentful.
For example, if you tell a girl a horror story, and she is afraid of suddenly approaching you, you can tease her in a deliberately misinterpreted way: "I didn't expect you to be such a person. You want to eat my tofu in such an old-fashioned way."
The current atmosphere will soon become ambiguous. If the other person is outgoing, she will take the initiative to tease you.
In this way, you have successfully reversed the framework between you. In the next relationship, you only need to control the rhythm and it will be easy to hold the girl's hand.
The inversion frame technique is a flirting technique that fluctuates the other person's emotions and makes her pay attention to you involuntarily on an emotional level.
By hinting, making her think that she wants to take the initiative to contact you will make her mental cognition and behavior consistent, and she will be more likely to accept physical contact with you.
