Perhaps the first date is just acquaintance, and the boy cannot be too aggressive and proactive, but the second date is different. This is a serious time to upgrade the relationship. After all, if a girl can agree to your second invitation, it at least proves that she is not disgusted with you, so we should be more proactive during the date. Of course, this initiative needs to be taken step by step and slowly, and it should not be too radical. So what should a boy do on the second date to make the relationship go further?
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We may have to decide the location and arrangement of the first date ourselves, but as for the location and arrangement of the second date, we’d better leave this choice in the hands of girls. The purpose of this is to let girls feel our sincerity and enthusiasm.
At the same time, he sends a signal to her, "We are already good friends. Whatever you like to eat or where you like to play, I will go with you." < /p>
Therefore, whether it is what to eat, what to drink, or what to play on the second date, you can ask the girl for her opinion. It is best to let her decide on her own.
Since we want to understand each other, we need to:
2. Show your true self
On the first date, we may hold back to give her a good impression, but by the second date, we can try to show our true selves.
You can try to talk about some topics that can help you understand the other person deeply, such as hobbies, life, three views, etc.
During the chat, it is also a good choice to expose some shortcomings to her!
No one has only advantages and no disadvantages. If you just want to maintain a perfect image and show yourself No matter how high-minded it is, it can easily become too artificial, which is not conducive to the development of subsequent relationships.
After all, there is only one kind of person without shortcomings, and this kind of person is called a saint. But do saints really exist? Saints are a collection of beautiful qualities imagined by human beings. They are high above, as if sitting on a cloud, and their whole bodies exude an ethereal light. Will girls fall in love with such fictitious people?
Some minor shortcomings will not cause girls to look down on us. On the contrary, they will allow her to see a real man with flesh and blood and emotions, and then she may fall in love with you.
Note: Don’t dump your privacy and secrets on her like beans from a bamboo tube. This doesn't mean being open and honest, and it doesn't mean you have nothing to hide from her.
This is more likeThink of her as a tree hole.
Moreover, there are some privacy and secrets that she can accept when your relationship is close, but it does not mean that she is willing to accept it when your relationship is relatively normal.
When we understand each other to a certain extent, we can formally prepare to attack and upgrade the relationship!
We can use this method:
3. Timely ambiguity
On the first date, we need to show respect for the girl and not be too proactive.
If you are still so honest on the second date, then you deserve to be single.
The rules and honesty you show on the second date will only be misunderstood by the girl as that you have no additional thoughts about her, and then she will slowly put you into the friendship zone.
Therefore, on the second date, we can try to be ambiguous at the right time, and make physical advances at the right time, but still don’t be impatient when moving. Directly using hands and feet is still a rude behavior that will scare away girls. .
Teach you a little trick:
Stare into her eyes, and when the girl feels confused, reach out and lift her messy hair.
Generally speaking, when a girl sees your actions, she will understand that you have some feelings for her. If she is willing to develop a relationship with you, she will accept your actions.
What if you refuse?
Then you may need to test whether the girl is shy to refuse or does not want to develop a relationship.
For example, a girl is practicing painting during this period. During the date, we can say, didn’t you say you wanted to take me to the place where you paint?
Or we can do the opposite. Come and invite her to our usual place.
If a girl is willing to agree to this small request of ours, it means that her window to us is quite large.
But if you don’t agree, then this girl may not be interested in you and has no possibility of developing a romantic relationship. This relationship may only become a pure friendship.
If the girl agrees to us, then there will be room for us to upgrade our relationship.
4. Upgrading the relationship
The secret technique for upgrading the relationship: leading in private space
What What kind of private space?
In your own home
Don’t misunderstand, bringing a girl to a private space does not mean that something will happen with her, but a private space is an absolute space for two people to be alone. , there are no outsiders, no interruptions, which allows us to better upgrade our relationship.
Prepare some atmosphere after arriving at your home:
Turn on some songs with lyrical, long and ambiguous contents, such as "Impulse""The Punishment", "Norwegian Wood" and so on.
Prepare some more red wine, and chat with her about your past love history while tasting the wine.
Yes, in these songs that can touch people's emotions, describing your previous emotional experiences to a girl, whether it is happiness or sadness, can directly affect her emotions and make her feelings change. A little bit of fermentation.
Remember: If you want to interact with girls, you must take the initiative to talk about yourself. Do not ask girls directly about their love history. Only when we talk about some aspects of our own feelings that may resonate with girls, simply Ask her: What about you? That’s it.
If a girl is willing to share her things with you, it means that she has been impressed by you~
