Chatting with girls is only the first step. Inviting to meet is the key. However, although many boys feel that the chat is very good, they are ruthlessly rejected by the girls as soon as they ask for an invitation. So how do you ask a girl out without being rejected?
1. Show your value h2>
Many times, you can have a good chat, but you can’t make a date. The key is that you haven’t let the girl see your value. If what you see through chatting is intrinsic value, you should build your extrinsic value better when dating.
To put it bluntly, you have to dress up handsomely. Everyone has vanity, just like boys like beautiful girls. Isn’t one of the reasons why they think it will give them face when they are taken out?
Girls are the same. Rather than generally saying that they like handsome guys, it is better to say that they want to feel that the boy who dates them takes the date seriously, so it is necessary to dress up well.
If you haven’t met her yet and you are relatively confident in your appearance, you can send her a photo.
You can also post beautiful selfies or travel photos in your circle of friends. The key is to look good, so that girls can look forward to meeting you.
For those who have met once and then added us on WeChat, if you want to make an appointment again, you must first see how the conversation goes.
If you are not interested in chatting, the meeting will probably be in doubt.
So as I said before, you should pay attention to enhancing the atmosphere of the chat, and it is best to be humorous; grasp the girl’s interests and hobbies, and find common ground with her; know how to grasp the girl’s little emotions and prescribe the right medicine.
2. Give feedback on previous things
Of course, there are ways to ask people out. You You can't make an appointment: "Would you like to have dinner together on the weekend?" "Let's go to XXX Park together on Saturday." Do you know why it is more difficult to make an invitation like this?
Because this is a new start for you. a topic that expresses only your wishes. There is only one decisive factor in whether the other party goes or not, and that is whether she likes you.
Think about it, on your first date, why should someone like you? Is it okay not to go if you are not interested?
Look, it’s hard for you to fall in love with them. Well, it’s also difficult for the other party to arouse interest.
Therefore, unless the other person is very fond of you just through chatting, it is basically difficult to make an appointment.
My suggestion is to find a reason for your date and make it seem natural, so that you will not put yourself in a passive position.
For example, give feedback on topics that have been discussed before, and take the opportunity to invite others.
"I went to the bar you mentioned last time., the atmosphere is really good. I heard that they have recently released a new wine. When are you free, can we go and try it together?”
“Didn’t you say you want to go to the Tongrentang Coffee Shop where you check out Douyin? I’m also curious about it. What will the coffee taste like? Let’s go together on the weekend. ”
You see, because we have talked about this topic before and the girl has shown obvious interest, it is natural to invite her again. And with the help of “she likes”, the probability of success will be greatly increased. Increase.
3. The way of dating should be innovative
When it comes to dating, it is either eating or watching a movie. Can you do something new?
Everyone goes out to eat and watch movies, which can really stimulate economic growth, but if you keep doing this, I'm afraid it won't do much to promote the growth of your relationship. It’s working.
It’s time to update your dating methods.
With the same girl, Zhang Sanchui also took her to watch a movie, and Li Sichui also watched a movie. You are chasing her. Let’s go to the movies.
What, is this movie theater reserved for dating?
Let’s try to differentiate ourselves from other boys, right?
For example, you can go for a walk outside. When spring comes, you can go sightseeing in the mountains and play in the water. Returning to nature can relax your body and mind a lot, and you can say many things naturally.
She likes it. If you want exciting games, go to the amusement park, whether it’s a roller coaster, a haunted house, or a jumping machine. If it’s not exciting, just worry that she won’t play it.
You can also do many things that you haven’t tried before, such as secret rooms. Escape, crafting, etc.
